Title: The Four Loves Author: Lewis, C. S. [Clive Staples] () I thought I should be able to say that human loves deserved to be. Atul_Gawande_Being_Mortal_Illness,_Medicine_and(zlibraryexau2g3p_onion). pdf Being Mortal THE FOUR LOVES C. S. Lewis - Watch. The Four Loves was Lewis' look at some of the different loves described in Greek thought: (agape) in the light of Christian commentary on ordinate loves.
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New Light on C. S. Lewis's The Four Loves" | The Undiscovered C. S. Lewis: New Thoughts and Directions in Lewis Studies, ed. Bruce R. Johnson (forthcoming). The Four Loves. C.S. Lewis. Traditionally, Christians tended to identify three, not four, kinds of love. These loves existed between persons and provided some. A repackaged edition of the revered author's classic work that examines the four types of human love: affection, friendship, erotic love, and the love of God.
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Top Reviews Most recent Top Reviews. There was a problem filtering reviews right now. Please try again later. Kindle Edition Verified download. A wonderful book written late in C. Lewis's career, and so reflects a greater sort of wisdom. As usual, he covers all the peripheral issues first, and seemingly in parallel, yet by the end of the book he ties all the elements together in a powerful essay.
This is his reflection on love, both natural as in coming from man's nature and divine coming directly from God , and in this way the book is timeless. There are, however, a few points dealing with friendly relationships between the sexes that may seem dated -- they are thoughtful and astute, but they are mostly reflective of a time in England when men and women rarely worked side by side.
Yet, even here, Lewis is aware of the transitory nature of these conditions, and mentions that if these situations changed then the nature of the friendly interactions would also change. His general observations remained true regardless. This essay is not as easy to read as "Mere Christianity", but with patience I would think almost anyone who persevered to the conclusion should be able to understand and gain from it.
It is very highly recommended. In this classic C. Lewis, the celebrated author of 'the Chronicles of Narnia,' reflects on love.
He begins by observing that at birth we all start out with need-love, needing gift-love. Gift-love is the kind of love the creator shows to the created, in the process of creating and taking care of the created.
It is the love a mother bestows on her newborn child. In contrast, need-love is the condition of poverty that every created being begins with at birth. I feel this quote sums up the point Mr. Lewis was making about need-love, 'Man approaches god most nearly when he is in one sense least like God.
For what can be more unlike than fullness and need, sovereignty and humility, righteousness and penitence. Lewis continues with a brief synopsis of things that we can show love for; these include others, nature, country, and finally, the transcendent creator.
Dissecting each, he illustrates that love of nature, patriotism, etc. Next, Mr. Lewis looks at the different kinds of love which include affection, philios, eros, and charity or agape. Affection includes the love of parents for their child, love of our pets, etc.
Philios is the love between friends. Eros is the love between two lovers. Finally, charity is the love of the creator towards the created and the return of that love by the created toward both the creator and creation.
Of all the loves, Mr. Lewis holds charity or agape in the highest esteem. All other loves fall short of Agape, as Mr. Lewis states in this quote, 'The other loves prove that they are unworthy to take the place of god by the fact that they cannot even remain themselves and do what they promise to do without god's help.
By placing our faith in images we are placing faith in what is transient and temporary.
Yet, the love that is immanent and transcendent of creation is all encompassing, therefore imageless, and thus beyond human conceptual understanding.. To understand love in all of its aspects we need both the images of affection, philios, and eros as well as the transcendent for the images are stepping stones on our way up to this feeling of all encompassing love.
Here, Mr. Lewis makes an important point about love when he states, 'To love at all is to be vulnerable.
Love anything, and your heart will certainly be wrung and possibly be broken. We shall draw nearer to God, not by trying to avoid the sufferings inherent in all loves, but by accepting them and offering them to him; throwing away all defensive armour. Yet, we cannot become entranced by our love for the images of the love immanent and transcendent of creation, because they like we are merely temporary, here one day, gone the next.. Lewis concludes with this point, 'Only those into which love himself has entered will ascend to love himself.
We were made for god. Only by being in some respect like him, only by being a manifestation of his beauty, loving-kindness, wisdom or goodness, has any earthly beloved excited our love. Lewis compelled me to contemplate love in all of its different manifestations, and through this reflection, to see that love is much more complex than what we frequently assume it to be.
It is for these reasons that I consider this a classic read worth pondering. I read this book back in the s when I was a senior in High School, I wanted to read it again because I had enjoyed it so much.
It was well worth reading again. Later categorizes love into four topics based on the four different Greek words for love which are affection, friendship, eros, and charity. He is an academic, but he is also a Christian. The book is based on Christian beliefs and these beliefs are used to explain the topic of love. His writing style is wordy, yet it is easy enough to understand. He explains well what the different loves are and how they are important in our lives.
If you are looking for a book that focuses on erotic love or the "Hollywood movie " love, you are better to find another book that panders to that kind of audience.
Love reading me some C. Lewis, and he's got some great insights in this book. Having it on Kindle was also really nice, since even though I've always been at an advanced reading level because I've been obsessed with reading since I was 4 , I definitely had to read through this slower to comprehend Lewis' often long-winded sentence structures, and being able to look up definitions at the tap of a finger undeniably made the read-through even quicker and more seamless.
I bought this version to read for a class since it was the cheapest option, and having the Chinese characters didn't hamper me in reading it at all, if anyone was concerned about that.
I definitely can't say I agreed with absolutely everything Lewis writes in this book, but overall, it's an absolutely fantastic read that I would encourage everyone to take some time to devour at some point in their life. I literally put a quote from this book on my arm, that's how much I believe in it.
CS Lewis's ability to transcribe love as a core human emotion is elegant, his grasp of Christian theology, ethics, and even aestheticism makes this book well worth the read. See all reviews.
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Till We Have Faces: But what is a frog? As a less morbid example, we can single out pieces of furniture in our house: a couch, a table, a chair, perhaps an overpriced piece of Tiffany. But what is furniture?
A family of four sitting on that couch could include a mother, a father, a daughter, and a son. But what is a family? But what is love itself? One of the most peculiar facts about The Four Loves is that it never tells us. If you comb its pages for a definition of love, you will leave empty-handed.
This is rather surprising. I am not being particularly brave or original here. It was noted right after its publication. Whatever the reason for the omission, in one sense it is wise. But then, a limp hand holds nothing. Where is the right bal- ance? Notice, too, the number of loves.
Yet it clearly shows that Lewis was fully aware of the question. It has been attempted before. First, a more suffi- cient definition of love would, if such a definition were possible, also cover love for non- persons, not just persons.
We are reminded especially of all Lewis has to say in The Four Loves about sub-personal loves, about love for country, animals, nature, and so on. What languages might these be? What relevant insights do they store?
We are never told. Second, he defends neediness as part of both given and elevated human nature. This is probably true.
It remains unclear, however, how any of this requires calling it a love. Many good hu- man traits, urges, and desires may be essential for reciprocal community without being love per se. The modifications to the manuscript protect against at- tributing to love a false self-sufficiency—something Lewis himself came close to doing in his radio talks.
For a concatenation of these formulations, see pages 59— Lewis, The Problem of Pain , ch. III, para. Lewis: New Thoughts and Directions in Lewis Studies forthcoming what overeagerly by turning need into need-love.
The very words entail receptivity. Here is how it goes. This is simply love. This is its genus. It includes an appreciative, receptive, and proactive dimension.
Love as a virtue can form love relation- ships. This is the quintessence of love. This is the dye that col- ours the general fabric of our earthly life, and perhaps even the life to come. But sacrifice is not the point of love; rather love is the point of sacrifice. The latter is closer to power than to love. Lesley Walmsley London: HarperCollins, , 96— , here Lewis: New Thoughts and Directions in Lewis Studies forthcoming Alternatively, we could extend the definition by adding insofar as possible and permissi- ble to qualify the level or kind of commitment in question.
After all, unqualified commitment is probably impossible, since our resources are finite and our attention spasmodic. Even if it were possible, it would be impermissible. In some human relations it can be downright destructive and even illegal.
In the end, though compressing or expanding the definition would both be justified for opposite reasons , I prefer it as it stands. It strikes an effective balance, I think, between being neither too rigid nor too flexible.
The grip is neither crushing nor limp. All words here, love must be unpacked, but a line must be drawn somewhere. I will involve my- self in your well-being, and welcome your love in return.
Love is always appreciative, proactive, and receptive. How do we succeed in love? This is where charity, rightly understood, steps in. Close readers of might recall that he uses the word agape here, not love. I have left it out so as to discourage us from prematurely reading into it any preconceptions. III, ch. Lesley Walmsley London: HarperCollins, , —28, here , emphasis added.
But this is a mistake. It took several re-readings to see through my own eisegetical mis- adventures. It is right there on the very first page of the chapter. Such has been the burden of this book.
The natural loves are not self-sufficient. In other words, only if something more, and other, than Affection is added.
The mere feeling is not enough. There is no disguising the fact that this means goodness; patience, self-denial, humility, and the continual intervention of a far high- er sort of love than Affection, in itself, can ever be.
A good lover displays these qualities in eminence.
As a younger man, Lewis had written approvingly 89 Paulette G. Lesley Walmsley London: HarperCollins, , —92, here A good lover is a good person. This is possibly the most realistic definition of a good lover available. It is certainly the most succinct. Good lovers are good people. Each and every virtue has a role to play in and for love. While perfect character is an unattainable ideal, it is not a dispensable one for serious lov- ers. While to be a Christ-bearer—Christopher, if you will—might mean more than to be a serious lover, it does not mean less.
This antithetical approach is still echoed and diffused in many a sermon today. For Lewis, positive though not sinless human agency was a reality. Lewis worked hard to discourage these prejudices, but we continue to read them into The Four Loves. Could he have worked even harder?
It has been established how charity is character. There are no such things. Of course sometimes lov- ing is more difficult than at other times.